Poly group of not, that sounds like an awesome evening!
14 years is a long time to have that level of emotional defense that comes with digital media. But I've always believed that if you're going to grow, you need the experiances of real feedback. The complementary, and the critical. Sounds like you're on that track, so try to remember that no matter what happens, it's a step forward.
Most of us are new to mastodon, so we're all figuring it out as we go too! Sort of like life 😁 Welcome!
I met one of my partners that way, not by dating that crowd but by making friends and meeting their other friends and partners. Kink isn't my thing, but do tend to be pretty accepting. 😁
Well that is quite an intro! Now I feel like I haven't done a good enogh job on my own. We're a small group but we are happy to have you with us!
Better to know now than find out later! At least the dude was honest, so that's something.
I don't think I can truely understand how hard that must have been. I'm glad to hear you have something more positive now, and I hope it's the first of many.
You can't help people who wont help themselves, so all you can do is focus your energy on supporting them where they are trying.
And remember to take care of yourself too, no one else is looking after you while you are looking after this partner.
Maybe she's not ready for that.
In my experiance it's easier for a woman to share their partner physically than it is to share them emotionally. Maybe she isn't ready for you to find another, as she'll feel replaced, or she's afraid she might feel replaced. Maybe she can get use to the idea, but you'll have to talk to her and tell her you don't want to replace her but you also don't want just sex from someone else.
I wish there was something magical I could say to make it feel better, but I've beem there and I know that there are no such words. I have faith that you can find your way through but we're here for you if you need us.
We're still a fairly small community, and not all of us log in everyday, but we try to be as supportive as we can
Thank you for another audiobook to add to my list. Keep 'em comin, I've got a long commute.
You're skills wont get criticism from me, I ain't any better 😥
Did you at least have fun together?
The story-oriented finance website CentSai wrote an article on the monetary costs of polyamory
I know several redditers (including myself) were the interviewees so I though I'd share.
Bi-poly Accountant/ Analyst/ Consultant/ IT/ Tax
I'm so poly I can't even pick just one career.
The idea: A social network for Polyamorous people, their partners, and the curious.
The execution: This Mastodon site, as bare bones as it is at the moment, will allow us to communicate and work toward our goal.
The Goal: To build the community we all hoped for, without the limitations of physical or temporal distance.