Got a bit of a sad. My girlfriend has decided to enter into a monogamous relationship. I've known that she wasn't getting what she needed out of our relationship and, ironically, I'm just getting medical/mental problems sorted so i can start giving her some of what she needs.

I'd been hoping she'd find another polyam person to connect with, but *sigh* found monogamous person.

If this relationship works out will definitely be right thing for her. But is still a sad.

We need a word for monogamous people who are good with being in a relationship with polyamorous people to help with erasure because one of the reasons poly is erased is due to very few talking about it or if they do it's with a flawed narrative. @sleepgirl proposed "polypal" which I think is adorable.

Would that be something you sweet non-poly but poly-friendly people of the fediverse would be willing to do? Try to envision your masto profile with "polypal" added and how much safer poly people will feel flirting or interacting.

#polyamory #discourse #polypal

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anyone who knows shit about indoor produce gardening wanna dm me so i can ask some questions?

Sorry for long silence here. Sick+run up to self pub deadline means not much spoons for social.

BUT! Book is done and folks here might be interested.

Safer Sex for the Non-Monogamous

Links and more info here:

Being trying to do movie night w/ nesting partner and cuilmate for several days now, but stuff (and in particular, kids) keep interfering.
Fingers crossed it works out tonight!

So plants use photosynthesis to take in carbon dioxide and give out oxygen, but it doesn't directly convert the two.

That oxygen actually comes from water, and because Earth is a closed system, a lot of water molecules have been water molecules for a long, long time until a plant picks them up. A lot of them are drunk by animals in the meantime.

Dinosaurs were on Earth for 179 million years. So it's very likely that some of the oxygen atoms you're breathing right now were once dinosaur pee.

So, wasn't the flu, just a really miserable headcold. Luckily it only SEEMED to last forever. Not fully over it, but definitely on the upswing.

A lot of people who want to learn art give up very quickly, believing they don't have the ability to learn.

Talent is a lie though. It doesn't exist.

Sometimes people will try and not learn as quickly as they think they should. Yet nobody would pick up a violin and expect to learn to play all on their own without anyone or anything to guide them. There are scales and techniques to practice.

For art, this involves re-learning how to see things, so you can form specifics about the shape, rather than just creating a symbol of it in your mind. And this involves developing the coordination for mark making. And how to construct shapes so they look like something.

It's no wonder people get frustrated and give up when they try to figure out the entire history of art on their own.

Use some resources and learn! I promise it's a lot more effective to practice *well* than to just hope that scribbling on paper will make you better.

One of the kiddos we were staying with is down with flu... looks like my kidling and nesting partner got it.

Hazards of travelling. Still worth it.

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abuse by respected polayamory community leader 

I wish I could say I was surprised by this. I think, with out realizing it, part of me has been waiting for these allegations to surface for a year or more.

#polyamory #metoo

@cocoron whenever i ask somebody how long they think people worked 500+ years ago, they say stuff like "seventeen hours a day!"

yeah. for one week a year. at peak harvest season.

like, do you know how much "work" a goat shepherd does? they sit under a tree most of the day, smoking and reading!

it's almost the same amount of work people do in their office jobs, except it's more sensible, and less stressful because there's no manager they have to fake "progress" to

Got in last night from week and a half w/ fam. Was wonderful time, as always.

Going to visit fam for a couple weeks next weekend.

I'm always fascinated by the way different people approach For me it's always been as much about family as anything else. My polyam network is made up of my chosen family and the chosen family of my connections.

That's not to say that all my links are familial, but most of them are and it's what I prefer.

How do you approach polyamory#?

you can change your pronouns to whatever you feel like. you don't have to hang onto old ones if you prefer other ones. you don't have to keep ones people are used to or would assume for their convenience. you can change you pronouns twice a week until you decide what works. you can use "binary" pronouns if you're non-binary and vice versa. you can use neopronouns. you can use no pronouns. you don't have to explain or justify them or their relation to your gender. make yourself comfortable

Relationship terms, long 

They understood that the term meant 'this specific person, and not one of the other people I'm in a relationship with but I don't want to use names right now.'

And that was all they needed to know.

But the monogamous and new-to-polyamory folks still expect relationships to be defined by their labels, so they ask.

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