Of course, there was another guy. She said something to him that she's worried upset him yesterday, she says. She's in a weird headspace that she's been for a week.

I'm not upset over other guy, but I am upset that there's no explanation given to disappearance, not even "I'm overwhelmed right now." I'm upset that I opened myself up and told her things, and so did she, just to stop talking. We were supposed to meet tomorrow.

I'm tired of unstable girls who can't communicate. She's 42.


Things are good, I tell her about some of my life, she tells me of hers. I aim to make the conversation deeper because as fun as teasing is, it's just teasing. She's cool with it, telling me her fears, her situation, about her job, her dog, sounds good...

she goes on a trip @UK. we text less, then things stop. I wait a couple of days, she gets back to me after a few days of radio silence. She's been back for a week.


I am reminded, again, that most women who reach out to me on OKC are looking for something quick and sexual, not a relationship (even if their profile says the opposite).

Someone's who found me online started chatting with me a couple of weeks ago. She's a bit far, but seemed cool. She was into being independent without having a full relationship, as she called it, she wanted her space. I'm busy and have partners, so sure.

few days in and it's anything but sexting. We tease each other. (1/2)

Met someone about 2 months ago (wow been that long...)

She has qualities I haven't seen in a long time. She's an adult, for one, not a snowflake 30 year-old child. Into BDSM (something I do) in a positive way. Smart and artistic, which is important. Physically attractive, and enthusiastic. And she likes me.

But she's on a "phase" of being open. Eventually she wants to be exclusive with someone. I don't know how much of a fact this is.I just want her to keep an open mind.

This will be bad.

@Jerrik do you ever come to the nyc area? I'm having a thought. How are things anyway

Some approved hashtags: and . Learn a new thing every day....

I didn't want to rub my partners in her face, I usually don't bring partners up unless people ask about them ( and even then, it's private) because I'm dating for myself, it's not about them.

But I guess saying "non-monogamous" is not good enough. I need to provide a link to poly on Wikipedia, and ask 3 times if they are ok with poly like it's done sort of a medical condition. Disgusting.

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And she thought me changing profile under "looking for" from blank to "relationship" was part of my game... Eww. I feel dirty. Afraid of commitment? Not looking for something serious? He must be a scared little boy... Eeww!!

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Just had the most epic facepalm-date ever.

Came to see her for a drink after talking for 2 days non-stop. She's all cheeky and cute thinks I'm a liar and afraid of commitment (which is why I lie) when my profile said non-monogamous first line.

She said she didn't like to share but that was it. Never asked me about my apartment or my situation etc. I get it that i could be more clear... But seriously? Came cross town and she's all jaw to the floor "think you should go". Wow.

So... Been away for a while.
Dating scene in NYC for me is border line non existent. Might be too selective but I don't think so.

I changed my definition of poly to non-monogamy. I feel there are too many questions once I do meet someone poly, and identifying myself and my relationship AND what I'm looking for each time is nuts (all three can be different). Decided I'm probably leaning toward relationship anarchist. Feels like ot makes sense.

That awkward moment when you aren't sure if you get paternity leave for your wife's and meta's kid...

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Good date last night, someone married and open who is deeply involved with books (always a plus!) with a healthy flair of kink.

We talked about New York and why we prefer the US over our original countries... I wonder if she realized her being there and us on a date is a huge reason for that in itself :)

And they all have pretty children
And the children go to school,
And the children go to summer camp
And then to the university
Where they are put in boxes
And they come out all the same.

And the boys go into business
And marry and raise a family
In boxes made of ticky tacky
And they all look just the same,

Back from a trip to homeland where polyamory is not a thing that exists. It was nice and all, but seeing a couple after a couple with 2 kids (as if by forumla) with similar little arguments... Meh. Glad to be back.

So why not a new short intro thing? Tell us where you from, what you do, and if you're a tea person or coffee person :p

Then if you want (another toot) about your poly a bit. Whatever you want to share of course.

So I missed a lot, looks like.
I'm Josh and I'm (still I think) a mod here. This instance's admin is @Jerrik , who's around here somewhere under the dust... Hopefully this will wake him up.

So! Enough the official blabla. Me, I'm poly with two partners for about 8 years. I used to hang out in the poly Reddit often to give support (at least I'd like to think so) and hear other people stories.

I'm excited to see new comers! Please feel free to @ me because that way I get notifications.

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