I went to a much last week and it was pretty nice. Met with a bunch of like minded folks in the kink scene. Maybe that's the path to go.
I met one of my partners that way, not by dating that crowd but by making friends and meeting their other friends and partners. Kink isn't my thing, but do tend to be pretty accepting. 😁
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