Logically I know that. I still just HURT all the time for not knowing how to navigate these waters. And I feel selfish. I'm acting as respectfully as I know how to. Communicating all the time. Not crossing lines. Not apologizing for how I feel, because I can't help that. But really wishing either I'd realized I was poly before getting married, or that I could just be mono and be happy about it.
@MsMcLuxe I wish I could give you the answer, but I know there isn't a solution that I can package up and ship to you with a little bow on top.
It sounds like you are doing what you can, and sometimes that's all you can do. Maybe time and slow progress will help, but there's no way to see where life goes until you get there. I think we've all had to face a similar situation at some point, some of us more complicated than others, so there's no way to know where it goes. You're not alone
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